CONFLICTS VERSUS HIGH CONFLICTS

It is becoming more and more common that ordinary conflicts are mixed up with high conflicts. This is very wrong and it gives the impression that all conflicts can be solved with mediation.

Naturally, it is a problem with two parents can no longer solve their conflicts and it harms the children. These are some of the cases we see on TV at the moment.

Ordinary conflicts can be solved with the right kind of conflict resolution and follow-up by skilled and empathetic mediators.

BUT THESE ARE NOT HIGH CONFLICT CASES!

When the Mom Network refers to high conflict cases, we are talking about cases with physical or psychological violence, abuse, incest, psychopathy, stalking, etc.

In these cases, there is a perpetrator and a victim and the balance of power is not symmetric.

MEDIATION CANNOT SOLVE HIGH CONFLICT CASES.

Mediation in high conflict cases is the same as retraumatizing victims. The only solution is a screening for violence, abuse and psychopathy. The victims must be protected from more abuse.

IT IS CRITICAL THAT HIGH CONFLICT CASES WITH VIOLENCE, ABUSE AND PSYCHOPATHY ARE NOT MIXED UP WITH ORDINARY CONFLICTS.

A comprehensive assessment must be made of all cases with conflict. It is very damaging to victims when the legal system does not invest the necessary time and resources on doing their work properly.

Mixing all cases up and placing them in one big, unsorted pile of cases is sloppy and undignified to a modern society!